Quran Chapter 4 -128 (Pt-5, Stg-1) (L-607) - درس قرآن
Behavior with wife
Suratun-Nisaaa’ (The Women) – Chapter – 4)
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
وَإِنِٱمْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِنۢ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَآ أَن يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا وَٱلصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ وَأُحْضِرَتِ ٱلْأَنفُسُ ٱلشُّحَّ وَإِنتُحْسِنُوا۟ وَتَتَّقُوا۟ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا (128
128. If a woman feareth ill treatment from her husband, or desertion, it is no sin for them twain if they make terms of peace between themselves. And peace is better. And greed hath been made present in the minds (of men). And if ye do good and keep away from evil, lo! Allah is ever Aware of what ye do.
128. Wa ‘inimra-‘atun khaafat mim ba’-lihaa nushuuzan ‘aw ‘i’-raazan falaa junaaha ‘alay-himaaa ‘any-yus-lihaa bay-na humaa sulhaa. Was-Sulhu khayr. Wa ‘uh-ziratil-‘anfu-sush-shuh. Wa ‘in tuhsinuu wa tattaquu fa-‘innAllaaha kaana bimaa ta’-maluuna Khabiiraa.
‘Uh-zirat – (has been made present), and kept in front. Its base is ‘Ah-zaar, which means ‘to place before, to make present’. It is made from Hazuur, which means ‘to come near, to appear, to befall’.
Nushuuzan – (displeasure, ill treatment), it aims that if the wife seems that her husband remains dissatisfied a little from her. Disgust and aversion has taken place of love and good treatment, then it is no sin for her, if she comes close to her husband and makes peace with him.
Shuha – (Greed), this word is also used for ‘ambition, avarice and covetousness besides vigorous desire.
Some other forms of behavior with the women and guidance about them have been mentioned in this verse, so that mutual relationship among the twain (husband and wife) may be good. It is commanded that if the wife observes that her life partner lives separately for a few days. His heart is felt revoked from her side, then there is no abashment in it if she adopts suitable policies to reconcile her husband. First of all, greed of wealth has been clung in the heart of everybody. Desire of profit has been attached with life. Therefore, if the wife inclines to reduce some money from her expenditures or becomes ready to lessen some amount from the amount incumbent on her husband (Mehr), then he will assent by beholding his financial benefit. The husband should also get ready to be united after observing the attempt of mutual adjustment from his wife, because welfare is in it that the twain (husband and wife) should live together friendly and with peace mutually. Many causes may be of disposition, but they both should be ready every time to remove the reason of disagreement. If one feels any sign of peace, even a very little, then the other should accept it immediately. It is no sin, if the wife causes to incline her husband and he accepts it. After that, it has been described that the men should treat the women well from the beginning and any chance of disagreement should not be born. It will be very good for both of them. Neither any deed, nor any intention of any person is hidden from Allah Almighty. He is ever Aware of everything. As though, He guided the wife in this verse that she should sacrifice some wealth (even very less), and claimed from the husband that he should fear from Allah Almighty and treat his wife well. Betterment of relationship needs first priority.