Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Marrying again after divorce

Marrying again after divorce

Surah ‘Al-Baqarah (The Cow) – Chapter – 2)
Stage – 1, Verses – 230 of 286, Section – 29 of 40 (Part - 2)

BisMIllaahir-Rahmaanir-Rahiim
In the name of God, the Beneficent, the Merciful

Lesson

Islam is a natural religion and has complete Code under practice for the entire life of human being. It shows the way of acquiring betterment and welfare for the life in this world and the Hereinafter. Islam is masterly over the entire sections of human life. There is no such problem of the life; solution of which; it doesn’t explain and there is no direction, commands about which it doesn’t issue.

Collective life of the mankind begins from a family. If the family life is successful and the relationship among husband and wife are in well condition then it is evident that every individual will find himself in a very good environment. He may be able to do his work with good manner. The children will find superior model role for themselves and they will follow their elders on the straight path at the time of their maturity. So, Islam makes better the family life of a Muslim. The husband and the wife have central position in the dynasty. If there are good relations and mutual cooperation between them, then every child of that family will go ahead upon the way of improvement; step by step easily. But if the relationship between husband and wife is in worse condition and they are disunited due to their thoughts and deeds, then it is much difficult for them to move forward collectively, and their misunderstanding will prove fatal also for their children.

Islam is also apprised this side of human nature and determines the divorce lawful in case of pressure. If any person wishes to divorce, then he should do so after deep meditation. If the woman feels lamentation due to her husband’s behavior, then she may also be gotten released. But the Divine Law of the Religion has imposed some orders and restrictions to realize the importance of married relationships of man and woman, for instance if the husband has devised firm resolution of divorce and doesn’t reconcile during the period of ‘iddat (term) after the second divorce, moreover he divorces her wife third time, then he can’t re-marry with her after it. If he wants to re-wed then its condition is very harsh. That is to say; any other person would have to wed the divorced woman, do the act of intercourse with her and then either divorce her with his will or he dies, and then thereafter; she has to complete her ‘iddat period. This remarriage is called literally Halaalah. But after this Halaalah, the re-marriage can only be performed in such form when both of them establish according to the orders of Allah Almighty, because they both have to think about paying the rights of one another, and have to believe in it. Otherwise, the situation of the destruction of one another’s rights and their mutual quarrels will come again. And they both will fall in sin.

Holy Messenger (grace, glory, blessings and peace be upon him) has cursed those men in one Hadith out of his Sayings, who make it (divorce) their profession, because a man weds a divorced woman for the purpose that he will divorce her again, so that, her first husband may re-marry this above-mentioned woman.

Alas! The Muslims didn’t recognize the rights of these questions and made the religion droll. Which restrictions were imposed by the Divine Law of the Religion on divorce, didn’t care for them. As and when we wanted, we divorced without thinking. Whenever the anger subsided, we gained our wits, began to lament and we chose unlawful forms of Halaalah. All this badness grew due to carelessness from the religion, ignorance, foolishness and not respecting the matters.  


Transliterated Holy Qur’an in Roman Script & Translated from Arabic to English by Marmaduke Pickthall, Published by Paak Company, 17-Urdu Bazaar, Lahore, Lesson collected from Dars e Qur’aan published By Idara Islaah wa Tableegh, Lahore (translated Urdu to English by Muhammad Sharif)