Kindness upon the women
Surah ‘Al-Baqarah (The Cow) – Chapter – 2)
Stage – 1, Verses – 231 of 286, Section – 29 of 40 (Part - 2)
In the name of God, the Beneficent, the Merciful
231a. When ye have divorced women, and they have reached their term, then retain them in kindness or release them in kindness. Retain them not with the object of hurting them in order that ye transgress (the limits). And he who doeth that hath wronged his soul.
231. Wa ‘izaa tallaqtumun-nisaaa-‘a fabalagna ‘ajalahunna fa-‘amsikuu-hunna bi-ma’-ruu-fin ‘aw sarrihuu-hunna bi-ma’-ruuf. Wa laa tumsikuuhunna ziraaral-lita’-taduu. Wa many-yaf-‘al zaalika faqad zalama nafsah.
‘Izaa tallaqtum – (When you have divorced), here it signifies about that once or twice divorced which may be inclined, after which there is still chance of inclination.
‘Ajalahunna – (their term), it aims that the period of their term is near to end, but has not yet ended. Otherwise, meaning of ending of the term period will be that now there is no chance for inclination.
Such rule has been mentioned in this verse that as and when a husband divorces his wife once or twice and he has not yet divorced at the third time, then he can incline before third divorce if he wants, and if he doesn’t wish to incline then he should divorce third time. Or if he remains silent then after the completion of term it will be considered automatically that he doesn’t want to incline and he has finished his relation intentionally with his wife. But it is compulsory that, which path will be adopted by the husband out of these two ways, that should be according to the Rule and suitable as per the Divine’s Law of Religion. That is to say; if he wishes to retain his wife then he should return with respect and nobility, and if he wants to disconnect his relation then he should send her wife back from his home with honor and politeness. In short, both forms should be suitable in accord with law and compliments. It should not be so that he inclines to vex and tease his wife, and likewise put her intentionally under his ban.
Those people who violate the rights of women and take them again in marriage to trouble them, God Almighty commanded about them that doing so, they have wronged their souls; they damaged themselves at their own. It’s clear that doing so, their homes might not be remained populated. But these will ruin. They themselves also will remain never in peace and comfort. Their domestic lives will become the spring of distresses and troubles. They both will fail in fulfilling the responsibilities of their children. Therefore, destruction and ruin will encamp at their homes. If this person divorces after some period too then any noble woman will never be ready to wed him. It is better for the husband that he should behave his wife with good manner, so that he may live also happily and his wife too.
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231b. Make not the Revelations of Allah a laughing-stock (by your behaviour). And remember Allah’s Grace upon you and that which He hath revealed unto you of the Scripture and of Wisdom, whereby He doth exhort you. Observe your duty to Allah and know that Allah is Aware of all things.
231b. Wa laa tattakhizuuu ‘AayaaTIllaahi hu-zuwaa, wazkuruu ni’-matAllaahi ‘alaykum wa maaa ‘anzala ‘alaykum-minal-Kitaabi wal-Hikmati ya-‘izukum- bih. Wat-taqUllaaha wa’-lamuuu ‘annAllaaha bikulli shay-‘in ‘Aliim.
Allah Almighty has warned in this verse, “Make not the Revelations of Allah a laughing-stock (by your behavior)” like that we obeyed only those Orders, which we wished and left those Commands which we thought difficult to be acted upon by us. Moreover, “Abide by the entire Rules completely because your goodness is only in it”.
First stone of the social life is family and the family life, and fundamental point of the family is good relationship between husband and wife. So, it will be quite true and just to say that foundation of the entire nation’s social system depends on execution and correction of rights and duties among husband and wife. If the husband pays his wife’s all rights very gracefully and the wife performs also like this in her husband’s rights, then life of the entire society will be established on very strong foundations. But if the relations between husband and wife have been disconnected and any dispute has been created between them, then it is sure that the entire society is in danger. Therefore, all people who like correction, should engage their attention to this side, they should try that the relations among husband and wife remain firm. Islam has emphasized especially this side.
It has been proved also from this verse through this command, “Make not the Revelations of Allah a laughing-stock (by your behavior)” , for example; at first divorced and then inclined, and said that either the word divorce was used as laughter and humor or it was spoken by chance in emotion.
There is a lot of wisdom and advisability in these matters of the Divine Law. The human being should think about them and try to reach their depth. Allah Almighty has sent these orders for our guidance and admonition. It is very necessary for us to reap advantage from them. God Almighty Knows our intentions. He is Familiar of our ecstasies. Nothing is hidden from Him. To keep the intention pure and settle the matters; is very needful for us.