RELATIONS with Husband, Children and Other Kin

RELATIONS with Husband, Children and Other Kin

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER

(SallAllaahu ‘Alayhi wa  ‘Aalihii Wasallam)

153.       Sayyidah “Umm Salmah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       The woman whose husband is pleased with her and she dies will be sent to Paradise. (Ibn Majah, Tirmizi, Targheeb)

154.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Awf (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The woman who observes the five prayers regularly, fasts during the month of Ramadhan, preserves her chastity and obedient to her husband, will be told: Enter Paradise by whichever of its doors you wish to enter. (Ahmad, Tabarani, Targheeb)

155.       Sayyidina Husayn bin Mohsin (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Your husband is your Paradise and your Hell. (If he is obeyed then he is a means to Paradise, otherwise Hell). (Ahmad, Nasa’i, Targheeb)

156.       Sayyidina Qays bin Sa’d (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If I were to command a person to prostrate before any other person I would command women to prostrate before their husbands because Allah has allowed many rights to husbands. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)

157.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       It is the husband’s right on his wife that if he calls her to him she must not say no even if she is seated on a saddle back. It is also one of his rights that she must not observe optional fasting without his permission; if she does so then she will stay hungry and thirsty (meaninglessly) and her fasting will not be accepted. No woman should go out of her house without the permission of her husband; if she does so then the Angels of the heaven, Angels of mercy, Angels of punishment-all curse her until she returns. (Tabarani, Targheeb)

158.       Sayyidina Zayd bin Arqam (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A woman cannot fulfill the rights of Allah unless she fulfils the rights of her husband. (Tabarani, Targheeb)

159.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Allah does not look at that woman (with mercy) who does not thank her husband although she can never be independent of him. (Nasa’i, Targheeb)

160.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If a husband calls his wife to his bed and she does not oblige so that he is annoyed with her for the night then the Angels curse such a woman until dawn. (Bukhari, Targheeb)

RELATIONS WITH Children

161.       Sayyidah ‘Aishah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       If anyone has on him the responsibility of raising daughters and he fulfils that responsibility gently, then these daughters will be a means to protect him from the Fire. (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)

162.       Sayyidina Jabir bin Samurah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone teaches his children etiquettes it is better than paying one Sa’ in Sadaqah. (Sa’ is a measure of weight. Sadaqah is charity). (Tirmizi, Mishkat)

163.       Sayyidina Anas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone raises two daughters looking after them until they attain adulthood then, on the day of Resurrection, I and he will be (near to one another) like that, saying that he joined his fingers together. (Muslim, Mishkat)

164.       Sayyidina Ibn ‘Abbas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone is guardian over a girl (daughter, sister etc) and he does not bury her alive, does not belittle her, and does not prefer his male children over her then Allah will send him to Paradise. (Abu Dawood, Mishkat)

165.       Sayyidina Ayyub bin Moosa (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A father cannot give his son a gift better than good moral upbringing. (Tirmizi, Mishkat)

166.       Sayyidina Suraaqah bin Maalik (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Shall I not reveal to you the most superior Sadaqah? If your daughter returns to you (on being divorced) and there is no one to earn for her besides you (then you must take care of her). (Ibn Majah, Mishkat)

167.       Sayyidina Sabrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Teach your child to pray when he is seven years old. At ten years of age, beat him (if he neglects prayer). (Ahmad, Tirmizi, al-Jami’as-Saghir by Seyuti)

168.       Sayyidina Bakr bin ‘Abdullah bin ar-Rabee (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Teach your children swimming and archery. The best play for the believing women is the spinning wheel. When your mother and father summon you simultaneously then you must go to your mother first. (Ibn Mansoor, Faryaabi, al-Jami’as-Saghir)

Relations With Other Kin

169.       Sayyidina Sa’eed bin al-‘Aas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The elder brothers have rights over their younger brothers similar to the rights of a father over his sons. (Bayhaqi, Mishkat)

170.       Sayyidina ‘Ali (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The paternal uncle of a person is a branch of his father. (Tirmizi, al-Jami’as-Saghir)

171.       Sayyidina Baraa’ bin ‘Azib (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The maternal aunt is of the same rank as one’s mother. (Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, al-Jami’as-Saghir)

172.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Learn enough of your genealogy to be able to keep relationships alive because joining ties with relatives brings about love, increases wealth and delays death. (Tirmizi, Mishkat)

173.       Sayyidina Jubayr bin Mut’im (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He who breaks ties of relationship will not enter Paradise. (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)

174.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He who reciprocates (the kind gestures of relatives) is not the one who joins ties of relationship but he is the one to join these ties who responds kindly to those who break relationship with him. (Bukhari, Muslim)

Collected  from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him),  Written by Justice Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani &  Published by Darul Ishaat, Urdu Bazaar Karachi, by Muhammad Sharif

Family Life - Parents, Husband and Wife

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER

(SallAllaahu ‘Alayhi wa  ‘Aalihii Wasallam)

Family Life

Behavior with parents

130.   Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Children can never repay their father until they find their father enslaved and buy him and set him free. (Muslim, Abu Dawood, Tirmizi, Targheeb)

131.    Sayyidina Abu ‘Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Your parents may mean Paradise for you (if you behave well with them) or Hell too (if you disobey them)

(Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

133.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Adopt modesty with the women of other men, your women will remain virtuous and adopt pious conduct with your parents, and your children will behave well with you. (Haakim, Targheeb)

134.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He rubs his nose in dust. Rubs his nose in dust, rubs his nose in dust. (He was asked, “Who, O Messenger of Allah?” He said), “The person who had aged parents yet could not make his way to Paradise.   (Muslim, Targheeb)

135.       Sayyidina Mu’awiyah bin Jahimah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Stay with your mother, for Paradise is under her feet.

(Ibn Majah, Nasa’i, Targheeb)

136.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       There are three people towards whom Allah will not look at all (with mercy):

1.   One who disobeys his parents.

2.   One who is addicted to wine, and

3.   One who boasts of his favors.  (Nasa’i, Bazzaar, Targheeb)

Husband and Wife

137.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ood (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       O young people! Those of you who are able to do it must marry because this is the best way to keep your gaze down. In this way you can better check your sexual desires. As for him who cannot afford to marry, he must observe fasting frequently because fasting is a means to curb sexual desires.   (Bukhari, Muslim, Targheeb)

139.   Sayyidina Abu Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Next to Taqwaa (God-fearing attitude), there is nothing better for a believing man than a pious wife. She is one who obeys her husband in every command he gives. When he looks towards her, she pleases him. And, if he swears by her (saying that she would do as he says, surely) then she does not let him down. When her husband is absent she is extremely careful about his property and her own self. (Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

141.       Sayyidina Abu Sa’eed Khudri (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A Woman is married for one of the four reasons:

(1)          Her beauty, (2) her wealth, (3) her good character, or (4) her piety.

       Choose a woman who is pious and well behaved (Ahmad, Targheeb)

Relation with Wife

142.       Sayyidina Maymoon from Sayyidina Ubayy(Radi-ALLAHO-An-hum)

       If anyone marries a woman agreeing to pay a dower, little or much, but not really intending to pay it to her then he has cheated her. If he dies afterwards without paying her the dower then he will face Allah on the day of Resurrection as an adulterer.    (Targheeb)

143.    Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho) 

   Among the believers, those who have a good character have perfected their belief. And the best among you are those who are good to their women.    (Tirmizi,Targheeb)

     

145      Sayyidina mu`awiyah bin Haydah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        A wife’s right over her husband is that he feeds her when he feeds himself, clothes her when he clothes himself; does not hit her on her face and does not speak to her rudely; and does not spend the night away from her (out of anger) except within the same house. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)

146.    Sayyidina ‘Amr bin al-Ahwas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Listen! Follow my advice in treating women gently. This is because they stay with you restricted. You have no right over anything belonging to them except that they do not do anything shameful. In that case you leave them alone on their bed and beat them lightly so that they do not feel the pain. Then if they obey you do not oppress them. Remember, you have some rights over your wives, and your wives have some rights over you. It is your right over them that they do not defile your bed with those you do not like, and do not let such people as you do not like enter your house. Remember, they have a right over you that you treat them well in feeding and clothing them. (Ibn Majah, Tirmizi)

147. Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

        This is a dinar that you spend in the cause of Allah. That is a dinar that you again use to emancipate a slave. And, this is also a dinar that you give as Sadaqah to a needy person. This too is a dinar which you spend on your wife. Of these, you will fetch the highest reward on the dinar that you spend on your wife. (Muslim)

148.       Sayyidah ‘Aisha (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       Does that man among you not feel ashamed that he beats his wife in the early part of the day as if he is beating his slave then in the last part of that very day he sleeps with her (having sexual intercourse)? Is he not ashamed of himself? (Abd bin Humayd, Kanz ul-‘Ummaal)

150.       Sayyidina Ilyas bin ‘Abdullah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Many women make the rounds of the house of Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon Him). They complain (of being beating at the hands) of their husbands. Such people (who beat their wives) are not the best among you. (Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Mishkat)

151.       Sayyidina Asma bint Abu Bakr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       I do not like it that I should see anyone with swollen veins of his neck, standing over his wife and beating her.    (Kanz ul-‘Ummaal, Asd bin Humayd)

152.       Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       As for him who has two wives and does not do justice to them, he will be seen on the day of Resurrection with one side of his body leaning down.    (Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, Nasa’i)

Collected from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him), Darul Ishaat, Urdu BazaarKarachi, by Muhammad Sharif

Debts and Repayments & Labor and Hard Work

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER

(SallAllaahu ‘Alayhi wa  ‘Aalihii Wasallam)

Debts and Repayments & Labor and Hard Work 

115.       Sayyidina Miqdaam bin Ma’dikarb (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       No one has eaten better food than what he has earned toiling with his own hands. Dawood (Peace be upon Him) the Prophet of Allah used to earn his sustenance with his own manual labour. (Bukhari, Targheeb)

116.  Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       It is much better for one of you to pick up wood on his back and earn his livelihood by selling it than to beg money from another. Some may give and some may not. (Malik, Muslim, Bukhari, Targheeb)

117.       Sayyidina ‘Adullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Surely, Allah likes a skilful believer. (Tabarani, Bayhaqi,  Targheeb)

118.     Sayyidatina ‘Aishah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)

       The person who having toiled with his hands returns in the evening tired and worn out, sees his evening with his (minor) sins forgiven. (Tabarani, Targheeb)

119.  Sayyidina Sa’eed bin ‘Umayr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon Him) was asked, “What is the best earning?” He said, “a man’s toiling with his own hands and every earning that is through pious effort.” (Haakim, Targheeb)

120.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Pay the laborer his wages before his perspiration dries. (Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

121.  Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Allah Ta’ala has said, “There are three men against whom I will take a stand and he whom I oppose, I shall give him (a crushing) defeat. One of them is a man who gave assurance in My name but then was faithless; the other, a man who sold a free man and enjoyed the price he received for him; and the third, one who hired someone on wages but did not pay him his wages after getting him to do what he was hired to do.” (Bukhari, Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

Debts and Repayments

122.   Sayyidina ‘Adullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Keep your sins in check; death will come easily. Let your debts be limited; you will spend your life in comfort. (Bukhari, Targheeb)

123.   Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone borrows from another intending to repay then Allah makes circumstances ideal for him to repay. But, if anyone borrows to waste the others money then Allah wastes the man himself. (Bukhari, Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

124.   Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone agrees to pay a specified dower to a woman and he marries not really intending to pay it to her then he is committing fornication. If anyone borrows money from another not intending to repay then he is a thief. (Bazzaar, Targheeb)

125.   Sayyidina Muhammad bin ‘Abdullah bin Jahsh (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if a man were to be killed in the path of Allah (in Jihad) then come to life, be killed again in His Path then come to life, be killed again in the path of Allah but have a debt over him then he will not go to Paradise until his debt is paid. (Nasa’i, Targheeb)

126.   Sayyidina ‘Adullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone dies while he owes someone one dinar or one dirham then that will be paid from his pious deeds (that is, the creditors will be paid the debtor’s pious deeds) because dinar and dirham will not be (in circulation) there. (Ibn Majah, Targheeb)

127.   Sayyidina Abu Qataadah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The person who hopes that Allah will remove his sufferings on the day of Resurrection, let him give respite to a hard-pressed (debtor) and mitigate his suffering or forgive him (altogether). (Muslim, Mishkat)

128.       Sayyidina ‘Abu Yasar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The person who allows respite to one in straitened circumstances or remits his debts altogether then Allah will shade him with His Mercy. (Muslim, Mishkat)

129.  Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A man was given to extend loans to other people and he had instructed his servants to forgive if they met anyone who was in straitened circumstances, saying, “Perhaps Allah will forgive us our sins.” Thus, when he died and met Allah, He forgave him his sins. (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat)

Collected from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him), Darul Ishaat, Urdu BazaarKarachi, by Muhammad Sharif

Business and Trading & Unfair Dealings in Business

SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER

(SallAllaahu ‘Alayhi wa  ‘Aalihii Wasallam)

Business and Trading & Unfair Dealings in Business

91.  Sayyidina Abu Sa’eed Khudri (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The truthful and honest merchant will be with the Prophets, the truthful and the martyrs (on the day of Resurrection). (Tabarani, Darimi, 

92.  Sayyidina Jabir (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       May Allah have mercy on him who is gentle when he sells, when he buys, and when he demands his rights. (Bukhari, Mishkat)

93.  Sayyidina Huzayfah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       There was a man among the people gone by to whom the Angels came to take his soul. He was then asked if he had done any good deed. He said, “I do not know.” He was asked to think it over. He said, “I do not know of any good deed I may have done other than dealing gently and kindly in buying and selling transactions with other people. I allowed the rich time and let offer the poor.” Allah sent him to Paradise for that.  (Bukhari, Muslim)

94.  Sayyidina Mu’aaz bin Jabal (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The best of the incomes belongs to those merchants who do not lie when they speak, do not misappropriate when they hold trusts, do not betray their promises, do not blame (the merchandise for defect) when they buy, do not (shower with) praise what they sell, do not dilly-dally when they have to pay someone and do not browbeat one who has to pay them. (Bayhaqi, Targheeb)

95.  Sayyidina Abu Qataadah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Refrain from swearing much while transacting business for it may increase business (in the beginning) but brings destruction (later).  (Muslim)

96.  Sayyidina Rifa’ah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       All the merchants will be raised on the day of Resurrection as evil-doers except those who fear Allah, are pious and speak the truth.  (Tirmizi)

98.  Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ood (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       He who adulterates while dealing with us is not one of us and those who cheat and act fraudulently will go to Hell.  (Tabarani)

99.  Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar(Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If a people are given to indecency to such an extent that they commit obscenity openly they will face pestilence. Such maladies will grow among them the like of which their forefathers had not faced. The people who cheat in measure will suffer famine and grave difficulties and their rulers will oppress them. The people who do not pay Zakaah on their property will be prevented rain from the skies and if there are no animals they will never get rainfall. The people who break their covenant with Allah and His Messenger will have Allah put over them an enemy from among strangers who snatches from their hands their wealth. And whenever the rulers of a people do not judge according to the Book of Allah and waver in obeying the commands of Allah then Allah causes civil disobedience to grow among them. (Ibn Majah)

101.     Sayyidina ‘Umar bin al-Khattab (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone hoards grain (away) from the Muslims, Allah will punish him with leprosy and poverty.  (Ibn Majah)

102.    Sayyidina ‘Adullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone withholds an edible for forty days then he has given up Allah and Allah is absolved of him. And, if anyone is hungry in the morning in the courtyard of a people then Allah is absolved of responsibility to those people.  (Ahmad, Targheeb)

103.       Sayyidina Ma’qil bin Yasaar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone interferes in the market of Muslims to create a rise in prices then Allah has the right to cast him face down in Hell.  (Haakim, Targheeb)

105.   Sayyidina Nu’maan bin Basheer (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone cheats his partner in a matter in which the partner had regarded him as trustworthy and had appointed him as his manager then I absolve Myself of his person. (Abu Ya’laa,Bayhaqi)

Unfair Dealings in Business

106.       Sayyidina Jabir (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) cursed him who takes interest, and who gives it, who witnessed the deal. He said that they are all alike.(Muslim)

1.    Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

People will see a time surely when there is no one who has not received interest and if there is anyone who has not, he surely has felt its dust on him(that is, its effects).(Ahmad, Abu Dawood)

  

109.  Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

The sin against interest is made up of seventy parts, the least degree is as if he committed adultery his mother.(Ibn Majah, Mishkat)

110.     Sayyidina samurah bin Jundab (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Tonight I dreamt that two men came to me and took me to a sacred place and we went on until we arrived at a river of blood in the middle of which was a man while another man stood at its bank and had plenty of stones before him. The man in the middle of the river tried to come out of it but the one at the bank hurled a stone on his mouth forcing him to return to his original place. In this way, whenever he tried to come out, the other threw a stone on his mouth and compelled him to go back to his place. I asked “Who is this?” and was told that the man in the river was the one who took interest. (Bukhari)

  

112.       Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       If anyone buys food grain then he must not re-sell it until he receives possession of it.(Bukhari, Muslims)

113        Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       A man must not quote more than the amount offered by his brother, and no one should make a proposal of marriage over the proposal of his brother unless he has his consent. (Muslims)

114.       Sayyidina Jabir (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)

       Let not a city-dweller sell for a villager (or a man from the desert). Leave people alone and Allah will provide them provision through one another. (Muslim, Mishkat)

Collected from The Book “Sayings of The Prophet” (Peace Be Upon Him), Darul Ishaat, Urdu BazaarKarachi, by Muhammad Sharif