Men are a degree above the women
Surah ‘Al-Baqarah (The Cow) – Chapter – 2)
Stage – 1, Verses – 228b to 229a of 286, Section
– 29 of 40 (Part - 2)
BisMIllaahir-Rahmaanir-Rahiim
In the name of God, the Beneficent, the Merciful
228b. And their
husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire a
reconciliation. And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over
them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. And Allah is Mighty, Wise.
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228b. Wa bu-
uulatuhunna ‘ahaqqu bi-raddihinna fii zaalika
‘in ‘araaduuu ‘islaahaa. Wa la-hunna
mislullazii ‘alayhinna bil-ma’-ruuf, wa
lir-rijaali ‘alayhinna darajah. WAllaahu
‘Aziizun Hakiim.
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Lesson
Zaalika – (in that case, in
it), that is to say; in the term/period of three months.
‘Ahaqqu bi-raddihinna – (they have
more rights to take them back). This proves from it that the husband should not
take quite last decision till the time he can delay and it is better if they
both (husband and wife) establish themselves again from the beginning, and the
time of their separation doesn’t come forever.
The Divine law of
Islam has kept it (divorce) lawful only as remedy at the time of necessity and
last disposal. It has neither been induced positively to divorce,
nor is it liked without need. The words “ ‘Abgazul-mubahaat” have been used in
one Hadith of the Sayings of Last Messenger (grace, glory,
blessings and peace be upon Him) which means ‘most disliked act near God
Almighty out of prescribed lawful acts by Him’ i.e. the divorce. So after
meditation and consideration; the husbands would do better to take them
back in that case if they desire reconciliation. They can cancel the divorce.
Technically it is called looking back (towards marriage).
After permitting
return (to wife); Allah Almighty has admonished also that the divorce should
only be abolished if both the life partners remain in peace and truce with one
another in future, and it should not be the purpose to torture the woman.
Although, the husband can cancel the divorce legally, but his good behavior
doesn’t relate to the law, moreover; it depends only on his courtesy and good
intention. So, the human should adopt the way of good outward and natural
behavior.
Then it is told
that as the men have rights over the women, like this, the women also have
rights over men. It has been intimated to the world, “you should not deem that
only the men have rights over the women, as well as they also have rights over
men. However, the man has some degree above the woman in excellence and
merit. This excellence and virtue of the man is due to his wisdom and strength.
These all commands are from God Almighty which we have to admit because He is
most Mighty and Wise.
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229a. Divorce must be pronounced twice and then (a woman) must be
retained in honour or released in kindness. And it is not lawful for you that
ye take from them aught of that which ye have given them; except (in the
case) when both fear that they may not be able to keep within the limits
(imposed by) Allah.
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229a. ‘At-talaaqu marrataan: fa-
‘imsaakum-bima’-ruufin ‘aw tasriihum- bi- ‘ihsaan. Wa
laa yahillu lakum ‘an- ta’-khuzuu mimmaaa
‘aatay-tumuuhunna shay- ‘an ‘illaaa ‘any-yakhaafaaa
‘allaa yuqiimaa HuduudAllaah.
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Lesson
Fa- ‘imsaakum – (then (a woman) must be
retained), that is to say; to retain that wife who has already been divorced
once.
Bima’-ruufin – (in honour,
according to the Divine Rule of religion), its detail can be gotten from the
religious law books.
Bi- ‘ihsaan – (in kindness) removing tense
and unpleasant condition which had become purpose of divorce. Dishearten, scorn
or lowering the woman down should not be the purpose.
Maaa ‘aatay-tumuuhunna shay- ‘an – (taking from the
women aught of that which you have given them), many Commentators have
explained it as the amount of kindness (Maher) but some
Scholars have extended it as entire that wealth and goods which the husband has
given to her wife i.e. ornaments and clothes etc.
It was a custom
before Islam that the husband used to divorce her wife many times as he wished,
but then he used to revoke from it. This verse revealed to remove this evil and
told that revocation can be only after divorcing two times. He has been
empowered up to two divorces that if the husband wishes during the time of
term (‘iddat), then either he can retain her according to rule or
leave her with kindness. But after the expiry of term (‘iddat)
revocation doesn’t remain further. However, if they both agree, they can
re-marry. And if he has divorced at the third time, then there is no chance of
re-wedding too, till the time that woman doesn’t live in any other husband’s
home and that husband either doesn’t die or divorce her.
Sometimes the
husband divorces in anger, and then he also oppresses to snatch that entire
wealth or goods which he has given to her wife till then. During the days of
ignorance; this rule had been spread more in the Arabians. Here this cruel
principal has been prohibited and declared that amount of the kindness (Maher) etc. which
you have paid already, cannot get back now.
Meaning of ‘imsaakum-bima’-ruufin and tasriihum-
bi- ‘ihsaan is that if the husband revokes then he should remain and
live with honor and kindness, and if he wants to bid her good-bye then also he
should see her off with comfort and nicely. It means that stress of kindness
and good behavior should be in all conditions.
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