SAYINGS OF THE MESSENGER
(SallAllaahu
‘Alayhi wa ‘Aalihii Wasallam)
Family Life
Behavior with parents
130. Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Children can never repay
their father until they find their father enslaved and buy him and set him
free. (Muslim, Abu Dawood, Tirmizi,
Targheeb)
131. Sayyidina Abu ‘Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Your parents may mean
Paradise for you (if you behave well with them) or Hell too (if you disobey
them)
(Ibn Majah, Targheeb)
133. Sayyidina Abu
Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Adopt modesty with the
women of other men, your women will remain virtuous and adopt pious conduct
with your parents, and your children will behave well with you. (Haakim, Targheeb)
134. Sayyidina Abu
Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
He rubs his nose in dust.
Rubs his nose in dust, rubs his nose in dust. (He was asked, “Who, O Messenger
of Allah?” He said), “The person who had aged parents yet could not make his
way to Paradise. (Muslim,
Targheeb)
135. Sayyidina Mu’awiyah bin
Jahimah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Stay with your mother,
for Paradise is under her feet.
(Ibn Majah, Nasa’i,
Targheeb)
136. Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin
‘Umar (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
There are three people
towards whom Allah will not look at all (with mercy):
1. One who disobeys his parents.
2. One who is addicted to wine, and
3. One who boasts of his favors. (Nasa’i, Bazzaar, Targheeb)
Husband and Wife
137. Sayyidina ‘Abdullah bin
Mas’ood (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
O young people! Those of
you who are able to do it must marry because this is the best way to keep your
gaze down. In this way you can better check your sexual desires. As for him who
cannot afford to marry, he must observe fasting frequently because fasting is a
means to curb sexual desires. (Bukhari, Muslim, Targheeb)
139. Sayyidina Abu Umaamah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Next to Taqwaa (God-fearing attitude), there is
nothing better for a believing man than a pious wife. She is one who obeys her
husband in every command he gives. When he looks towards her, she pleases him.
And, if he swears by her (saying that she would do as he says, surely) then she
does not let him down. When her husband is absent she is extremely careful
about his property and her own self. (Ibn
Majah, Targheeb)
141. Sayyidina Abu Sa’eed
Khudri (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
A Woman is married for one
of the four reasons:
(1)
Her beauty, (2) her wealth, (3) her good character, or (4) her
piety.
Choose a woman who is pious
and well behaved (Ahmad, Targheeb)
Relation with Wife
142. Sayyidina Maymoon from Sayyidina
Ubayy(Radi-ALLAHO-An-hum)
If anyone marries a woman
agreeing to pay a dower, little or much, but not really intending to pay it to
her then he has cheated her. If he dies afterwards without paying her the dower
then he will face Allah on the day of Resurrection as an adulterer.
(Targheeb)
143. Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Among the believers, those who have a good
character have perfected their belief. And the best among you are those who are
good to their women. (Tirmizi,Targheeb)
145 Sayyidina mu`awiyah bin Haydah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
A wife’s right over
her husband is that he feeds her when he feeds himself, clothes her when he
clothes himself; does not hit her on her face and does not speak to her rudely;
and does not spend the night away from her (out of anger) except within the
same house. (Abu Dawood, Targheeb)
146. Sayyidina ‘Amr bin al-Ahwas (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Listen! Follow my advice in
treating women gently. This is because they stay with you restricted. You have
no right over anything belonging to them except that they do not do anything
shameful. In that case you leave them alone on their bed and beat them lightly
so that they do not feel the pain. Then if they obey you do not oppress them.
Remember, you have some rights over your wives, and your wives have some rights
over you. It is your right over them that they do not defile your bed with
those you do not like, and do not let such people as you do not like enter your
house. Remember, they have a right over you that you treat them well in feeding
and clothing them. (Ibn Majah, Tirmizi)
147. Sayyidina
Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
This is a dinar that
you spend in the cause of Allah. That is a dinar that you again use to
emancipate a slave. And, this is also a dinar that you give as Sadaqah to a needy person. This too is a
dinar which you spend on your wife. Of these, you will fetch the highest reward
on the dinar that you spend on your wife. (Muslim)
148. Sayyidah ‘Aisha (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)
Does that man among you not
feel ashamed that he beats his wife in the early part of the day as if he is
beating his slave then in the last part of that very day he sleeps with her
(having sexual intercourse)? Is he not ashamed of himself? (Abd bin Humayd, Kanz ul-‘Ummaal)
150. Sayyidina Ilyas bin
‘Abdullah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
Many women make the rounds
of the house of Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon Him). They complain (of
being beating at the hands) of their husbands. Such people (who beat their
wives) are not the best among you. (Abu
Dawood, Ibn Majah, Mishkat)
151. Sayyidina Asma bint Abu
Bakr (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ha)
I do not like it that I
should see anyone with swollen veins of his neck, standing over his wife and
beating her. (Kanz
ul-‘Ummaal, Asd bin Humayd)
152. Sayyidina Abu Hurayrah (Radi-ALLAHO-An-ho)
As for him who has two
wives and does not do justice to them, he will be seen on the day of
Resurrection with one side of his body leaning down. (Tirmizi, Abu Dawood, Nasa’i)
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